A strong women will automatically stop trying if she feels unwanted. She won’t fix it or beg; she’ll just walk away.
Since Time Magazine published their recent Person of the Year cover I have been thinking about Silence Breakers and what a strong woman means to me. I have admired many women in my life for their awesome strength and they have become role models. Some I have known individually and they have personally influenced me and others I have admired from afar. I find that most of these women are unassuming, confident, display humility, listen to their intuition, have strong beliefs, feel empathy and are extremely compassionate. They are not loud, boisterous or in-your-face activists nor are they man haters. They are authentic, possess immense integrity and are not afraid to show their feelings. They are not to be reckoned with, however! From my way of thinking these women share several traits.
Humility– Today’s world is full of arrogance; you see it everywhere and it seems to be most rampant in the sports world. It is not the same thing as strength. I’ve always stressed the need for humility in one’s life and cautioned kids at an early age to display it. I believe it is a ticket to success. A strong woman possesses confidence yet is humble and manifests minimal arrogance. She is grounded and knows what she wants. This often takes great courage as she is willing to walk away from a situation that is no longer in her best interest, to stand up for her beliefs as well as face the challenge of being independent. This by no means indicates that she is not involved actively in a healthy romantic relationship.
Keep Moving -I can’t seem to get away from this mantra. Yes, she is always moving and is very active both mentally and physically. She makes her own happiness and isn’t dependent on others for it; she possesses a great sense of balance as she juggles all the balls in the air.
Intuition– She listens to her own voice yet does not act on impulse. She has a strong belief that her feelings and concerns are valid and follows her own path.
Believe – A strong woman is kind and compassionate and has no need to use ego in a negative way. She is vulnerable and not afraid of emotions or sharing them. She is true to her own feelings. She loves, respects and accepts herself. She is a believer!! In herself and in others. She is the ‘real thing’ – authentic, genuine, generous, kind with unlimited integrity. She isn’t afraid of voicing her opinions, but then is able to move on. She isn’t one to wallow in negativity. She will show you unlimited and unconditional love and support and is extremely loyal and faithful, but will readily walk away if rejected. She continues life’s beautiful journey with quiet resolve.
The Time Magazine article only touched on sexual harassment. But how many of you women reading this have been emotionally abused, harassed or bullied in your everyday life into doing something you really didn’t want to do or weren’t able to do at that time? “No means no” in all aspects of life; one doesn’t need to give a reason nor made to feel guilty for not responding in a positive way. I don’t want dessert, to join you for dinner tonight or have my picture taken today – all of these examples should just be accepted and not judged; tomorrow is a new day. It is not a reflection of any personal dynamic just how you might feel at any given moment. It gives one pause when dealing with relationships, family, friends or colleagues as you should not have to do anything that is not comfortable for you. Take a minute to think about this and don’t inadvertently put anybody in this position and if you are placed in it think about how you plan on reacting.
I am in total awe and admiration of strong women and only hope that someday I can join their ranks. We all have different life stories and experiences; what are traits you find strong women share?