I have a love / hate relationship with my cell phone. After the accident, I was focused on having it with me at all times – just in case! Yet, the constant use of the phone is overwhelming. And, I am not talking about what others are doing, but my own use. I have less than the minimal amount of apps on my phone, but I have found that texting has gotten out of control.
Remember, the simple days when you could actually think about what you wanted to say and write a letter. I learned never to write in anger or frustration (yet it is those emotions that texting seems to bring out) and to sleep on that sort of communication before mailing it. It was often torn up the next day and the relationship was miraculously saved! Today everything is about instant gratification which can be totally irreparable. And, I haven’t even mentioned the auto correct feature which is another mind boggling experience which involves yet another text saying you didn’t mean that. I find texting exhausting and tedious; even voice texting which results in an inordinate amount of time correcting the message. There is no margin for error since no nuance of emotion is being exchanged; the simple raising of an eyebrow, giggle or shoulder shrug that gives the message a completely different tone is not there.
I know of relationships that have ended with a text – goodbye ‘Dear John’ letter. It seems to me that a lot of integrity was lost in that particular kind of text as well. I think the recipient could breathe a big sigh of relief (after the shock has worn off) that this person is no longer in their lives – unable to call? Really? I wonder if marriage proposals are done by text as well.
I have read about ‘internet relationships’; I think this is called make believe at its worst; those days are best spent by children in their fantasy stage. Digital interactions are not real; relationships that don’t progress to an eventual getting together are simply not normal and resisting the meet up is a sure sign of something amiss.
I recently received for my birthday the most beautiful hand crafted fountain pen from a life long friend and my intention is to put it to good use this year. Please don’t be surprised if you receive a missive in the mail from me or better yet, a phone call!