I have a love / hate relationship with my cell phone. After the accident, I was focused on having it with me at all times – just in case! Yet, the constant use of the phone is overwhelming. And, I am not talking about what others are doing, but my own use. I have less than the minimal amount of apps on my phone, but I have found that texting has gotten out of control.
Remember, the simple days when you could actually think about what you wanted to say and write a letter. I learned never to write in anger or frustration (yet it is those emotions that texting seems to bring out) and to sleep on that sort of communication before mailing it. It was often torn up the next day and the relationship was miraculously saved! Today everything is about instant gratification which can be totally irreparable. And, I haven’t even mentioned the auto correct feature which is another mind boggling experience which involves yet another text saying you didn’t mean that. I find texting exhausting and tedious; even voice texting which results in an inordinate amount of time correcting the message. There is no margin for error since no nuance of emotion is being exchanged; the simple raising of an eyebrow, giggle or shoulder shrug that gives the message a completely different tone is not there.
I know of relationships that have ended with a text – goodbye ‘Dear John’ letter. It seems to me that a lot of integrity was lost in that particular kind of text as well. I think the recipient could breathe a big sigh of relief (after the shock has worn off) that this person is no longer in their lives – unable to call? Really? I wonder if marriage proposals are done by text as well.
I have read about ‘internet relationships’; I think this is called make believe at its worst; those days are best spent by children in their fantasy stage. Digital interactions are not real; relationships that don’t progress to an eventual getting together are simply not normal and resisting the meet up is a sure sign of something amiss.
I recently received for my birthday the most beautiful hand crafted fountain pen from a life long friend and my intention is to put it to good use this year. Please don’t be surprised if you receive a missive in the mail from me or better yet, a phone call!
It’s that time of year again – reflecting back and looking forward to new beginnings! I am grateful for all the lessons I learned in 2017; the most important being living in the moment. My world shifted while I was waiting for the ambulance last month. I finally realised I was no longer invincible (I kept hoping!) and just how quickly everything can change. I was lucky; it could have been much worse.
No resolutions for me this year. Just a one word mantra: BALANCE! Achieving this balance is the key – you can’t be driven in any one direction by your heart or mind. Obsession (be it work related or simply being fixated on a hobby) cannot take over. So often you hear “the project will end in a few weeks”. Those weeks often turn into months and years and everything spirals out of control. One needs to feel grounded, calm and motivated daily to achieve the balance I strive for this year.
Draw a circle; divide it into sections and label each section with what is important in your achievement of balance. Some examples might include: Health, Physical Activity, Relationships, Spirituality, Creativity, Career- you get the idea. This helps me have a clear visual of areas that need attention. You can become too self reflective and life’s experiences will pass you by or you can focus too heavily on the external side like work and not listen to your heart. Too many opportunities for happiness can be lost unless that internal/external balance is achieved. Don’t push the envelope too hard with career objectives without including those who mean something to you. Enjoy the ride!
I have the Christmas music up full volume as I write my Christmas cards with my favourite fountain pen! The only thing absent is the snow and this is the only time I miss it!! I love everything about December. The decorations are so very festive, the lights are twinkling and jingle bells are ringing. Oh yes, the Christmas trees! It is also my birthday month which means every day is a joyful celebration.
Yet as I write these cards I am filled with nostalgia as I remember each person and what they meant to me at various stages in my life. A few years ago, I visited a friend I hadn’t seen in a very long time. We picked up our conversation right where we had left it so many years ago and the reunion was filled with much laughter. I thought about all those years of not seeing her and realized I didn’t have regrets. I’ve learned to appreciate the ebb and flow of friendships. As much as I would have liked to remain frozen in a certain phase of my journey, I am so grateful I didn’t. I am thankful for every person I have met along the way and of their influence in my life. I admit though that I am surrounded by an emotion of wistfulness thinking of days gone by and my youth!
However, it is important not to get caught up in excessive self reflection, have unrealistic holiday expectations and dwell in the past. Staying focused and centered and living life to its fullest in the moment is the only way to create memories. Remember my maxim “Keep Moving” and put it to use. Sitting in front of a TV or computer for hours at a time probably isn’t the best way to create meaningful memories. Get out there and engage with the world. There is something to be said for the Kona beer tagline: “ One life right? Don’t blow it.”
Keep moving and start creating those beautiful memories right now that you can look back on with fondness. For those of you living in snow territory build a snowman or better yet live dangerously and make an angel in the snow and think of me!!